yet another one …

So, having written my piece on Britney and others on Sunday, there I was on Monday morning, around 6.15am, watching the BBC news through very bleary eyes.    But they opened wide enough when I found myself looking at a sargasso sea type hairstyle which seemed to have legs underneath.  It did; it was apparently 4 years of age, female, and enjoying playing tennis on a court with a BBC sports reporter – at 6.20 am or so.  Maybe the child did not know better, but what about the reporter?  Well, there you have it; apparently the little girl wants to play tennis and practise like this every day – she wants to be a ‘star’ we gather – rather than be a little girl until she can decide for herself.  Or are we all believing that this little one decided at around the age of 3 that her chosen career would be international tennis etc etc.  Oh yeah!  

And what do you think would happen to a scrap metal collector who took his four year old daughter out each morning at 6am because she wanted to learn how to be a scrap metal woman?  I don’t think that her statement that she wanted to be a scrap metal woman would cut any ice at the ensuing Child Protection Case Conference.   And what would happen to the mother who took her 3 year old son to the recycling site each morning at 6.30 because he wanted to learn how to be a recycler?  A humbug for each correct answer.   What does the BBC think it is doing – reporting such parental behaviour as though it is to be admired?  I said it all in the piece about Britney et al, and now this shameful piece of reporting has strengthened my viewpoint.   Why is the first behaviour patriotic and publicly praiseworthy, when the second and third are neglectful and abusive?   Perhaps because if, at the age of four, you can be taken to a tennis court  to play with an expensive specially made racquet and a hired adult, you smell of money; whereas if you are taken out to work on a scrap truck learning how to sort metal with a relative, you are being abused and neglected.  I will be interested to receive any  alternative explanations – or any explanations.       


One Response to “yet another one …”

  1. DAZ Says:

    I also saw this news report and felt quite angry. This little girl should not have been in a gym practising tennis so early in the morning. Apparently she has only been playing tennis a couple of months, has entered her first competion and beaten children twice her age. That is great and I have no problem with encouraging a child who has an apparent talent but there is a fine line between encouraging and pushing. The people around her need to remember that she is only 4. She should be at home having breakfast with her family, getting ready for school, playing with her favourite toy or watching her favourite children’s programme. She has plenty of time to be training hard in the gym at a reasonable time of the day and at an age that she can make that choice. If she has got the raw talent surely this will not leave her? Won’t it still be there when she is 10. 12, 16?

    I just feel that children can no longer be children. I am a mum of two girls myself and feel sorry for them and their friends. The pressures put on them at such an early age is hurrendous. Children are no longer allowed to play outside as parents are concerned they will be abused, bullied or killed,they have exams to sit in primary school as well as secondary school, are expected to look and act a certain way but why? I played outside, I didn’t sit exams until I went to secondary school and I did not feel that I had to wear makeup at the age of 11 before leaving the house. I turned out ok.

    More and more children are suffering from eating disorders and other mental health problems and I believe it is because of the pressure society and some parents are putting on the younger generation.

    We are all told that you have to go to university after school otherwise you won’t get a “decent job”. That’s fine if that is what the child wants. I went to University as a mature student and many of my younger students told me they were only there because that is what their parents expected of them. In the first week of Univeristy a young lad climbed a bulding and jumped off it, sadly killing himself. Rumour had it that he felt that he would not be able to cope, did not want to be there and felt that this was his only way out. So is it worth pushing a child so far that this happens? NO of course not. We need to learn to listen to our children and ask them what they want. I will support my children to do anything they want to do but there is no way that I will push them into doing something they don’t want to do. First and foremost children need to have a childhood. Let them play with their dolls or cars, interact with children of their own age eat jelly and ice cream, learn from mistakes and support them. Money and stardom isn’t everything but health and happiness is.

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