Archive for the ‘Domestic abuse and Mental health’ Category

Mental health is your business

June 18, 2010

Equality and Human Rights Commission

In 2008 the Commission’s Who Do You See? research found that people with mental health conditions are one of the most discriminated against groups in Wales with:

  • 37 per cent of people being unhappy if their close relative married someone with a mental health condition
  • Only 40 per cent of people thinking that people with a mental health condition are suitable to be Primary School teachers

Following these findings we have been working in partnership with mental health experts from the voluntary sector and equality practitioners in the public sector to address mental ill health in the workplace.

This guidance is a result of that partnership. Together we have looked at what makes effective policy and practice, defined the business case and agreed a strategy to promote the guidance to others.

We have developed a set of tools which you can use in your workplace to tackle sickness absence and address the stigma associated with mental health conditions.


Men’s Advice line.

June 7, 2010

The Men’s Advice Line is a confidential helpline for all men experiencing domestic violence by a current or ex-partner. This includes all men – in heterosexual or same-sex relationships. Talk it over We want to give all men who experience domestic violence the chance to talk about it. We provide emotional support, we can give you practical advice and we can inform you of specialist services that can give you advice on legal, housing, child contact, mental health and other issues. Call us on freephone number 0808 801 0327 0808 801 0327 – free from landlines and most mobile phones. We are open: Monday – Friday 10am-1pm and 2pm-5pm If the lines are busy or if you are calling outside of those hours, please leave a message with your name and a safe number and we will call you back as soon as we can. You can also email us: Remember: our priority is your safety. If you are in immediate danger dial 999 to speak to the Police.

To visit the site please click this link:

Teenagers experiencing violence when dating.

December 7, 2008

Women’s Aid launches new teen domestic violence statistics with Bliss magazine
Wed, 3rd Dec 08

National domestic violence charity Women’s Aid has launched new teenage domestic violence statistics with Bliss magazine as part of their Expect Respect campaign. The statistics, which launch in the January edition of the magazine, show that approximately 1 in 5 Bliss readers have been physically hurt by someone they were dating – and for sixteen year old girls, this goes up to 1 in 4. The survey, which was live on the Bliss magazine website in September, also showed that nearly a quarter of fourteen year old girls have been forced to have sex or do something else sexual they didn’t want to do by someone they were dating.

Women’s Aid Chief Executive, Nicola Harwin CBE said:

“Although we know that 1 in 4 women experience domestic violence, it is still shocking to find out that this statistic applies equally to teenage girls in their very first relationships. It is also worrying that our survey showed that the older girls are, the more likely they are to accept being bullied and controlled, whereas they are less likely to confide in parents and ask for help. Whether it is physical violence, forced sex, or emotional abuse, this abuse is never justified. Women’s Aid is working to prevent abuse in the future by working with Bliss magazine to publicise our new resources for young people, parents and teachers, and to send out the message that we should all Expect Respect in our relationships.”

Leslie Sinoway, Editor of Bliss said:

“Bliss magazine and are delighted to be in partnership with Women’s Aid for the excellent Expect Respect campaign. As a brand, Bliss has always been committed to equipping teen girls with the skills, knowledge and confidence they need to ensure that they go on to have happy, healthy relationships. We hope this campaign will help educate young girls in what is, and what is not, acceptable behaviour from a partner.”

The Expect Respect campaign has been running since September when it launched on The Hideout website for young people affected by domestic violence, supported by Hollyoaks actors Ashley Slanina-Davies and Kieron Richardson, who play Amy and Ste in the Channel 4 programme. The campaign asks young people to both Expect Respect and give respect in their relationships and aims to work with teenagers now to reduce the amount of domestic violence experienced in the future.

Ashley Slanina-Davies said: “Domestic abuse takes many forms, it can be physical, sexual or mental. In Hollyoaks, my character Amy faced this in her relationship with Ste and I know from this storyline why it can be difficult to leave an abusive relationship. If domestic violence is affecting your life in any way, you can go to for support and information. The important thing to remember is that there is always someone willing to listen so don’t suffer in silence.”

Kieron Richardson said: “Domestic violence affects many young people, whether in their relationships with each other or if they have grown up with violence in their homes. From playing Ste on Hollyoaks I can imagine how frightening it would be to have him as a boyfriend. Violence and bullying in relationships is always unacceptable. Everyone should Expect Respect in all of their relationships, and not only expect to be respected but to give respect to others as well.”

Young people affected by domestic violence or who are interested in the Expect Respect campaign can go to the redeveloped Hideout website now contains a range of new interactive features with separate areas for children and teenagers and includes an online messageboard for young people.

For more information contact:
Teresa Parker on 0117 9837123 / 07815 598 784
Jess Tadmor, Marketing Manager for Panini UK on 01892 500105

Wallich – Young Person’s Handbook and Useful Contacts

February 16, 2008

The Handbook and Useful Contact list supplied by the Wallich Trust have been placed in the 16 – 21’s ( and a bit older) page of this blog.   Open the page, click on the YPH link – and be a bit patient while it loads as it is a large file!  The Support link is below the handbook link.

yet another one …

January 7, 2008

So, having written my piece on Britney and others on Sunday, there I was on Monday morning, around 6.15am, watching the BBC news through very bleary eyes.    But they opened wide enough when I found myself looking at a sargasso sea type hairstyle which seemed to have legs underneath.  It did; it was apparently 4 years of age, female, and enjoying playing tennis on a court with a BBC sports reporter – at 6.20 am or so.  Maybe the child did not know better, but what about the reporter?  Well, there you have it; apparently the little girl wants to play tennis and practise like this every day – she wants to be a ‘star’ we gather – rather than be a little girl until she can decide for herself.  Or are we all believing that this little one decided at around the age of 3 that her chosen career would be international tennis etc etc.  Oh yeah!  

And what do you think would happen to a scrap metal collector who took his four year old daughter out each morning at 6am because she wanted to learn how to be a scrap metal woman?  I don’t think that her statement that she wanted to be a scrap metal woman would cut any ice at the ensuing Child Protection Case Conference.   And what would happen to the mother who took her 3 year old son to the recycling site each morning at 6.30 because he wanted to learn how to be a recycler?  A humbug for each correct answer.   What does the BBC think it is doing – reporting such parental behaviour as though it is to be admired?  I said it all in the piece about Britney et al, and now this shameful piece of reporting has strengthened my viewpoint.   Why is the first behaviour patriotic and publicly praiseworthy, when the second and third are neglectful and abusive?   Perhaps because if, at the age of four, you can be taken to a tennis court  to play with an expensive specially made racquet and a hired adult, you smell of money; whereas if you are taken out to work on a scrap truck learning how to sort metal with a relative, you are being abused and neglected.  I will be interested to receive any  alternative explanations – or any explanations.       

What is meant by ‘domestic violence’?

November 27, 2007

    Facts & figures

Although domestic violence is chronically under reported, research estimates that it:

  • accounts for 16% of all violent crime (Source: Crime in England and Wales 04/05 report)
  • has more repeat victims than any other crime (on average there will have been 35 assaults before a victim calls the police)
  • costs in excess of £23bn a year
  • claims the lives of two women each week and 30 men per year
  • will affect 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men in their lifetime

This is the link to the Home Office website where you can read this and other information for yourself.

The following entry is from Australia, where it is stated that domestic violence will affect the lives of 50% of Australian women in their lifetime.

Sydney, Australia – November 2, 2007 – White Ribbon today launches its 2007

national campaign with a call to action for all political parties to pledge their commitment

to develop social policies to end violence against women in Australia. At the launch of its

annual media campaign White Ribbon asks Australia’s politicians to remember that

almost half of all Australian women will be victims of physical or sexual abuse in their

lifetime, and implores them to bring violence prevention strategies higher up the political

agenda.   To read more click on this link:-

International Day to end Violence Against Women

November 26, 2007

End Violence Against Women

Sunday 25th November was the start of the International 16 Days of Activism to End Violence Against Women.  If you, or a friend have suffered such violence, or if you are wanting to get involved to work to bring an end to this criminal behaviour then you may like to have a look at the linked information below.

Statistics for violence against women

Violence against women is a major problem in the UK. In fact, almost half of all women in the UK experience domestic violence, sexual assault or stalking (Walby & Allen, Domestic Violence, Sexual Assault and Stalking: Findings from the British Crime Survey, 2004).

For some forms of violence against women such as forced marriage, female genital mutilation, rape and sexual violence, trafficking and forced prostitution we have limited statistics. This is due to a number of factors including: the hidden nature of the abuse; fear and stigma preventing reporting and lack of systematic data collection by the UK Government. The figures that are available are likely to be an underestimate.

Millions of women and girls every year are being beaten, raped, mutilated, abducted, forced to marry, and murdered. It’s time for the violence to stop.

The links on the left of this page will take you to a list of facts and statistics that illustrate just how prevalent violence against women is here in the UK.

Key research:


December 29, 2006

I will be writing something soon on my thoughts about stigma and mental health.  If you have something you would like to say about this, or send in some writing of your own about your experience of stigma, then please send it in to me for including in whatever is produced.

Eating Disorders – Does this help?

June 28, 2006

Eating Disorders


Anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa are the two main eating disorders prevalent in our society.  Others, like compulsive overeating, are much rarer.  People with anorexia restrict their food intake so much that they experience tremendous weight loss and eventual emaciation.  It is typical that a person with anorexia will never believe herself or himself to be thin enough.  There is desperate determination to never approach what is considered by others to be a normal size and weight.  About four out of ten people with anorexia will eventually make a full recovery. Only about three in ten continue to have major life long illness.  Untreated, fifteen per cent of suffers die, making anorexia the deadliest of the psychological disorders.


In bulimia there is not the iron will to completely exclude food that occurs in anorexia. Food intake is erratic and may include food binging.  Intense feelings of self-loathing, guilt and shame often follow compulsive over eating sessions.  Actions are taken to rid themselves of what has been consumed; vomiting, laxatives, drug use and excessive exercise are some of the forms this behaviour may take.  With bulimia an individual is rarely emaciated but still shares the extreme fear of weight gain that occurs in anorexia.


It is not easy to predict who will develop an eating disorder.  It is about ten times more common in females than males, reflecting society’s increased focus on the female form but incidence in men is rising.  Eating disorders are more common in teenagers and young adults, in those of above average IQ, in people with a family history of eating disorders and in those with controlling family units or traumatic childhoods.  They are also a great deal more common in societies where it is considered desirable to be thin.  In nearly all cases dieting and a low self body image precede fully established eating disorders


What can you do if you fear you or someone you know may have an eating disorder?  I suggest you get on the web, read all the excellent resources there are to be read on the subject and thus armed speak to your GP or counsellor about getting whatever help you need.  There are specialists in every town waiting to help you; all they need is for you to ask.


What to do if you are part of a culture that produces eating disorders?  I have some suggestions.  We can strive to understand what drives these behaviours.  We can reclaim the media.  We can stop the ever-critical eye that we pass over others and ourselves. We can de-stigmatise mental illnesses, discuss them, explore them and not be in fear them. 


By Liz